We live in an age of opportunities. Women have so many choices and options at this point in time. Unfortunately with all those choices can come feelings of overwhelm and stress. Every one of us desires to “have it all”. I am a true believer that you can indeed have what you want.
As women we have a strong center of nurturing and caretaking. And this inclination can lead to the place where we are not putting a high enough priority on ourselves. The following suggestions are about going down the path to having what is most important.
- 1. Family: Date, Communicate and Make it Great!
Date your spouse and your children. Set a regular schedule if possible and make the date about the other person. This is so important for the working mom. Setting aside individual time for each child will build strong relationships that are not damaged by a late night or a missed game. Playing a game one on one, a movie night, or even a Skype date so you can connect from faraway places can create special memories.
Communication is critical. Understand what the other person cares about. Not just what you think they said or meant. Again this can be critical for moms with limited time. Just focus completely on the story your child is telling. Don’t jump ahead or assume you know the ending. Even listening to the plot of a movie or a video game can let your child know that you care about them enough to listen to ANY topic. This can pay off when you need that same child to share with you. You have established trust and a loving listening relationship. I recommend the 5 Love Languages series of books by Gary Chapman. Of course there are many other great resources.
Make it Great! In any circumstance take a moment and evaluate. Is this the way I had hoped things would go? Using a measurement such as asking yourself or family, what would make this experience a 10? Then make it great! If you decide ahead of time that a quiet beach vacation is a 10, then don’t go to a loud amusement park and wonder why it isn’t as great a vacation as you expected. Sometimes it is as simple as adjusting our own attitude to be grateful for what we already have and deciding this is a great day!
- 2. Personal: Eat, Move, and Get Adjusted!
Eat- Better than yesterday. Even small improvements are movement in the right direction. Less processed more raw fruits and vegetables. Notice you feel better when what you eat is better. Likewise with drinks, caffeine and sugar give a quick lift and then drop you. They don’t add to your health so consider cutting them from your intake.
Move- Exercise and diet have the power to eliminate most if not all of the chronic diseases we face today. Even small steps here constitute a victory. Any exercise in any amount is better than nothing. From there the trick is to choose something you can really like so you will do it again!
Get Adjusted- Meaning a Chiropractic adjustment. Your nervous system controls everything in your body and that is what Chiropractors influence. The adjustment actually reduces pressure on nerves and that allows nerve flow to go where it is needed at its full potential. As you can imagine, that means a lot when it comes to keeping energy high and symptoms low.
- 3. Business/Job: Organization and Responsibility
Get organized- Nothing helps the busy woman like an organized lifestyle. Whether it is personal, or at work being the ruler of your time is the key to getting what you want. There is power in planning and 10 minutes of planning can save hours of wasted time. There are plenty of tools for this but a favorite of mine is the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. Also on the personal and home front; www.flylady.net
Take Responsibility- No one will take care of you except…you. And you cannot do the great things you are destined for unless you take care of you. No one to blame, just challenges to overcome. Women can decide what they want, and they can have it. We get to decide what that includes and how much we enjoy the process of getting to that goal. Always remember to celebrate your success.